Do you set goals for yourself? There are all types of goals. Ones for your career, schooling and finances, but have you set goals for yourself as a wife and mother?
Before we moved, every year, Tevis and I would take off for a weekend for our anniversary and (unbeknownst to him) set goals for our relationship. I don’t think he ever realized that’s what we were doing. We haven’t done this for a couple of years now since we can’t get away for a whole night alone and I have really noticed. I think we have gotten lost in the craziness of dealing with Hunter and everything else that for the moments we do have of peace, we just want to sit and do nothing. So with this year’s anniversary, we are going to try to start setting our goals again.
I was working on printing some things off for my household notebook and one of the things that I was printing was about “your goals.” It wants you to list your current priorities, your skill sets and goals for 1-3 years, 3-5 years, 5-10 years and 10-15 years. Then it wants you to draft your mission statement and vision statement. I think I have always had these, just never written down but I don’t think I’ve ever really have a mission statement. Time to fix that. We need to be purposeful in the things that we do. We need to know WHY we are doing what we are doing. Does it add to or take away from our goals? Is what you’re doing a distraction or a help?
We need to be purposeful in what we do as a wife and a mother. Our family is ours to nurture, guide, direct and build up. We are to raise our children to seek God’s direction in their lives, respect their elders, hold doors for others (big pet peeve of mine), be of gentle spirit (struggling with this one), the list goes on and on. And we as wives are to speak well of our husbands, be encouraging, supportive, his help meet. Words of kindness should drip from our lips. I have to say, THAT one I really struggle with. I battle the bitterness of what I have to go through everyday and I struggle getting out of the pit. Right now is a good moment because I feel a sense of calm and purpose. There isn’t any yelling or screaming or meltdowns going on (which has gotten MUCH better since Hunter has been in therapy). It’s in the times of frustration where I stumble. I need to fix my perspective and set my goals according to God’s direction. So that is my task today. To set my goals and mission statement. That and making more bread.
Do you have your goals set before you? The ones for yourself and the ones God has for you? =) Be blessed!