Gossip. I know that right now someone’s name floated right through your head. You know the one. The person who ALWAYS knows what’s going on with so-and-so and just has to tell you about it. There is the obvious ways of gossip, but there are the not so obvious ways too. One way I think this comes in the form of, is by complaining about others. I’m guilty of this. Especially if I feel I have been wronged. It doesn’t help at all in reality. If you really think about it, you can’t really complain about someone/somthing without gossiping about what they did. Normally this can create a lot of problems. Proverbs 25:23 says, As surely as the North wind brings rain, so a gossiping tongue causes anger. How much of our complaining would stop if we viewed it through the eyes of it being gossip? How much of the fighting that goes on between people is caused by gossip?
Proverbs 26:20 says, Fire goes out without wood, and quarrels disappear when gossip stops. If we didn’t gossip and run our mouths, there would be A LOT less fighting. So, much discord is sown with gossip. Are we to build each other up or tear each other down? There is no edification in it. Romans 14:9 says, Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification. We are to do what is in the best interest of others. Talking about everybody’s dirt isn’t in their best interest. No wonder everybody is afraid to be real. They are afraid of being burned at the stake for not being perfect. God forbid! How can we ever heal, grow and mature as Christians if we’re never real and HELP each other with our junk?
So often ministry leaders are held at a higher standard than anybody else. But, I’m going to fill you in on something, we are a mess just like everybody else. We are not superhuman. Our children are not perfect. We have struggles daily and we are not immune to them. That’s what is so interesting about having a special needs child. Our junk is out there for everybody to see. There is no hiding it. Hunter makes sure that you know that we don’t have it together. I am thankful for that. Yet, at the same time horrified. I get tired of being the incoming circus. To be honest, I feel that my biggest asset is that we are out there; exposed per say. How we deal with things and how we handle things are sometimes our biggest witness to others. It’s a big relief to me. It’s hard trying to fit yourself into some mold that people expect you to be in. Hunter keeps us from fitting into that mold. Thank God!
So many times we have such a low self image that to make ourselves feel better, we tear others down by gossiping. But, by remembering that we never truly know the whole story of what is going on in someone’s life, it will help in keeping the gossip down. Instead of talking to everybody else about what’s going on in someones life, go and talk to them about it. Encourage them. Hebrews 10:24-25 says, Let us think of way to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.
Oh the peace to be had. So, the next time you speak about someone, try something uplifting about them. Focus on the positives. If we judge people by their intentions instead of their actions, we may see them in a whole new light. =) Be Blessed